That fierce engine in the pit of your belly — Will — can do a lot.
Will gets you up to feed the children after a stormy, sleepless night. Will gets you through that last semester, when the jumble of terms and grades and credits seems meaningless. Will submits the tenth job application or the forty-ninth manuscript, even though it makes no sense to Mind. Will points the car toward work because there are bills to pay and mouths to feed.
Will has one direction: forward. Whichever way you point Will, it will push and push and push. Will keeps…
Cuz you can’t THINK your way out of anxiety
In our recent blog, “You Can’t Think Your Way Out of Anxiety — How to Wrestle Your Lizard,” we established that the limbic brain (a.k.a. Lizard Brain) does not respond to language: self-talk, affirmations, intentions, logic, or reason. In other words, you cannot think your way out of anxiety.
Still, you do not have to be held hostage by this powerful-but-nervous lizard! You can take control of your emotional response with effective, simple, science-based techniques that you’ll looooooove doing anytime, anywhere. …
Surprising discoveries on the journey
My hungry cat woke me at 5:40 a.m. Rather than engage in a battle I know I won’t win, I give in to his purrs and soft-pawed prompts and allow my heart to fill with gratitude for the privilege of opening my eyes on another new day.
I put my feet on the floor and engage my body and mind in gentle sun salutations.
After feeding the cats, I sit in the dark, quiet house for meditation. Sometimes there is journaling, but not today.
I check in with myself about the day ahead and recognize…
This Saturday, March 13, is a uniquely powerful day for a self-care deep-dive. With both the Sun and new Moon in Pisces, you can leverage access to deep individual and collective wisdom. Your focus will be especially magnified in the areas influenced by Pisces: feet, Third Eye and sleep.
Our home on a spinning orb circling a giant star puts us in dynamic relation to many planetary and celestial influences. There is a whole lot of science and math in astrology, but what I groove to is the archetypes. Archetypes are universal patterns of thought and behavior, repeated throughout the…
A pebble: the gym is no longer an option, but it’s not so bad, right? You can still walk (even though it is cold and rainy) or do a recorded yoga class (by yourself, on your bedroom floor).
A pebble: the news is full of doom and devastation, people suffering, but it’s distant, not about you. Except you heard your co-worker lost their brother, and your neighbor lost their son, and a relative by marriage died. There were no funerals, no hugs, no eye-to-eye condolences. But this is not yours to grieve, right?
A pebble: your job has changed. You’re…
When you’re barely keeping your shit together, self-care sounds like just another impossible thing to do. At best, too prissy, too privileged, too IG. At worst, another failure, another loss.
Like many, many people around the world, I experienced a loss this week. Although this one was long in coming — the inevitable culmination of an eight-year Alzheimer’s journey — it lodged itself in the tender place where small losses over the last year have added up. Little losses, not grieved because they paled in comparison to bigger struggles going on in the world. Vicarious griefs: empathetic resonance with the…
For me, the biggest gut-punch of this calamitous year has been my racist awakening. Of course I knew there was racism but, until George Floyd’s murder, I did not understand how it is woven into the DNA of our country. White people have been intentionally sheltered from its existence.
White people who think they “succeeded all by themselves” willfully ignore the foundation of this country which is literally on the backs of black enslaved prisoners. …
Does the conflict and negativity surrounding this election cause your precious internal flame to flicker? You’re not alone.
Election burnout is a real thing. Even in ordinary years, elections trigger increased anxiety, stress, fear, anger, and mistrust (according to Psychology Today). And 2020 is no ordinary year!
Since burnout is a recognized disorder with serious symptoms, be aware of early indicators that may require medical intervention. These include:
Burnout has many causes, but one thing its victims have in common is they are pushers.
They push those around them (employees, colleagues, spouses, children). They push against what is. They push themselves. Relentlessly.
This pushing works for them until it doesn’t. Eventually, inevitably, their fuel sources deplete.
I know. I pushed my way out of the trailer park, through a college education, up through various levels of outward success, right into burnout. I ignored my needs, my dissatisfaction, all the warnings. …
When you retrace your life, examining its course as a series of forks in the road, an alternate landscape emerges. At each fork in the road, you made a choice: left or right, either/or, yes or no. You probably weren’t aware of most of those binary choices, yet each of them set your path, leading to subsequent forks, more choices, ultimately placing you right where you are now. EVEN ONE DIFFERENT choice would have dominoed into a different present reality for you.
Not all forks are the same.